Which reflects a higher level of psychological security and emotional maturity?「嫌われる勇気」(the courage to be disliked by others) or「好かれる勇気」(the courage to be liked by ourselves)? As we move through the stages of life, most of us do at some point have to develop the the courage to do and be things that expose us to the […]
The limitations of the cross-cultural lens for explaining individual behavior
In this 1983 article, Indrei Ratiu describes how the “most international” managers consider both cultural and individual factors when interpreting their international colleagues’ behavior. When working internationally, it is a good idea to study cultural patterns, but it is often even more important to pay close attention to the person in front of you right […]
All those models making you feel dizzy? CIAO is a simple framework that helps you connect the feedback and feedforward loops that are the engine of continuous learning
Wouldn’t it be nice to have one framework to organize all that feedback, reflection, ideation, coaching, planning (i.e. thinking and communicating about the past and future) that make you an effective leader? As action-oriented beings, when we think about the past, we usually do so with the purpose of influencing something in the future. Whatever […]
The solution to WISIATI is more curiosity and more transparency:)
In Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman explained that we all pretty much live in bubbles of our own making. We each have a limited view of the world AND we for the most part assume that other people see the same things in the world that we do. He called this phenomenon WISIATI: “What […]
The power of leaders rests on the expectations of their followers, and that’s why power is often so fleeting.
Back when I was a graduate student, I used Kuhnert and Lewis’s transformational / transactional leadership model together with French and Raven’s five bases of social power (rewards, coercion, expertise, legitimacy and referent – the power of “like”) in my research exploring how the Hojo family wrested political power from the courtiers in Kyoto to […]
Ideas evolve in cycles
Ideas evolve in cycles as we notice sources of dissonance, articulate opportunities, experiment with strategies, learn and change, become comfortable, then notice new sources of dissonance. Idea cycles also evolve in cycles. The ideapractice cycle has evolved into EDIT:) EDIT: A formula you can use to convert change (変化) into transformation (変革) by writing stories […]
What I see depends (at least partly) on what I have learned to see; what you see depends (at least partly) on what you have learned to see.
Many (if not most) of our communication, relationship, influence and collaboration challenges emerge through errors of omission rather than errors of commission. Back around 2007, when I created this graphic for a program on interpersonal influence that I developed for the Japanese subsidiary of a global investment bank, social neuroscience had not yet become that […]
You know more than you know that you know. How do you access all that knowledge waiting for you to peer just below the surface?
In a recent interview on Hidden Brain, University of Missouri psychologist Ken Sheldon explores how intuition (i.e. accessing information that gets processed beyond the awareness of day-to-day consciousness) is often the doorway to problem solving. (link at bottom of this post) The interview focuses on how you can build a life that incorporates more of […]
To lead a transformation, you ALSO need to pay attention to the transactional needs of your potential followers
Why do people follow you? To gain rewards and avoid punishments? To maintain a mutually-positive and useful relationship? Or do they follow you because they want to help you create a future they believe in? Transformation involves transactions. It’s not possible or even desirable to ignore transactional forms of leadership. Likewise, not all transformational visions […]
If you believe in kindness, you believe in wokeness
If you are in favor of being kind whenever kindness is a viable option, you are already well on your way to being a world-class wokester, and you should feel good about that! People don’t hate wokeness so much as they hate being told by someone else that they personally are not woke (enough) and […]